As you and your family tackle the turmoil, stress and confusion of divorce, you have likely read a million articles on what to do during a divorce. During this time, many adults let their emotions get the better of them and act out of fear, anger, and sadness. At The Millard Law Firm, we understand what you are going through, which is why our Alpharetta divorce attorney has put together this easy-to-read guide of what not to do during your divorce.
1. Don’t Be Uncompromising
Couples choose to get divorced for a number of reasons. Sometimes the decision can be mutual and sometimes it is not. If you are choosing to get a divorce because your spouse cheated on you, it may be difficult to feel like compromising. Getting revenge may be your plan, but the divorce settlement is not the place to do it. Instead, write down all the areas you are willing to compromise and the areas you are not. If your list is too full of items you are not willing to compromise on, read it again, this time number them in the order of most important to least important. Once you have done this, discuss the list of items with your Alpharetta divorce attorney. Doing so will help you and your attorney formulate a personalized legal plan.
2. Don’t Be Inconsiderate of Your Family’s
Just because you no longer want to be married to your spouse, doesn’t mean you should be inconsiderate of their needs. If your partner was a stay-at-home mother, she may not have the income to afford a new apartment or home. You may want to sell the house immediately so you can split any profit and move on, but uprooting your children can be emotionally traumatic and stressful for them. If you are willing to negotiate with your spouse, consider communicating to one another regarding your individual needs and what would be best for your children.
3. Don’t Be Rude or Mean
Divorce can cause many level-headed, good people to react negatively and say or do things they wouldn’t normally do. Remember during this time, a judge can scrutinize your actions with your spouse, your children, on social media and with your children’s teachers. Our Alpharetta divorce lawyer has seen cases where good parents have lost custody of their children because they took to social media to publically vent their anger and said something incriminating.
4. Don’t Spend Unnecessarily
Divorce can be expensive. You are in the process of dividing a household as well as tasked with setting up a new separate one. Examine the bills that are your responsibility to pay, your income and any other expenses you might have and create a budget. One mistake some clients make is spending marital assets. During this time, try not to spend or liquidate any marital assets. This could be viewed as a malicious attempt to negatively impact your spouse.
5. Don’t Cause or Engage in Conflict
Lastly, you should never purposefully engage in conflicts with your spouse. We understand this is a time of great emotional stress for you, your ex and your family, but try to be as cordial as possible. Heated arguments, fights or anything further could lead to a domestic violence charge which could negatively impact your chances of winning custody rights.
Efficient, Effective Divorce Solutions
At The Millard Law Firm, we understand what you are going through. If you and your spouse are considering divorce, you should contact our Alpharetta divorce attorney. We understand that no two families are alike, which is why our attorneys can provide you personalized legal strategies designed to fit the needs of your family. Call to schedule your consultation today.